“Growing up is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying in a place that doesn’t belong.” ~NR Narayana Murthy
Anyone who stretches as a kid will remember that moment, and you and your friends will test Armstrong’s good limitations. Each of you grabs an arm and walks slowly backwards, waiting for a critical moment when your power will emanate, or Armstrong’s limbs will tear apart like a medieval torture device.
If you reach the limit of strength, an older sibling will eagerly join in – there is no more joy than watching Armstrong’s new obstructed body cross the unpaid place.
Why are we stuck? We cannot define what it means.
Feeling stuck no It means your feet are above the floor.
What is stuck is an active state that pulls you in the opposite direction, just like Armstrong. Part says, “Don’t give up,” while the other says, “This doesn’t work.” No wonder it is impossible to keep moving forward. But what if you don’t have to choose a moment?
If you can yes Is it not necessary to solve immediately due to this difficulty?
It might even be admitted, like, “I’m stuck together, and it makes total sense considering all the shit that happened in my life.”
I am currently dealing with survival anxiety about my career. While there are many advantages to working for yourself – no one tells you where or having freedom in your time, the downside turns the world upside down: no one checks, it’s painful isolation. On tough days, no one can lean or grab slack, nor feel that you are working towards a common goal. You have everything.
“Life is about making informed choices and dealing with tradeoffs. In business and elsewhere, I haven’t seen a good example of total freedom – there’s always a gain, there’s always a cost.”
Happiness is not about avoiding trade-offs, but about who you are willing to accept to be transparent.
This is where I’m stuck. I’m not sure if these tradeoffs are worth it. After more than eight years of solo, I heard the sirens of my longing for life, part of a bigger career than myself.
But how do you distinguish between the time when you should sit in uncertainty and when you need to take decisive action and stop overthinking?
A powerful question, is it?
There is a real balance between giving some space and taking action; it’s hard to know what is needed.
This is the clarity that consciousness can give us.
This is an opportunity to notice the energy behind your desire to act.
Whether the action feels from urgency, fear or need Escape uncomfortable?
That’s a good sign-up move no Answer.
Or do you feel clear, if not completely certain?
If the action feels like comfort Instead runningthis may be a sign of moving.
Are you feeling relieved and alliances when you think about taking action now? Or does it feel more like panic and stress?
I don’t have clarity. I don’t know what I want. I was filled with emotions.
My energy is full of urgency, fear and need Escape Discomfort.
Then what will I tell you? I’m trying to make a decision from a place that has no roots.
This doesn’t mean I won’t take action, it just means my system needs more space and therefore I won’t make decisions from where I’m afraid.
In a culture where action is viewed as the only solution, it’s easy to think about how motion sweeping is how we solve the stuck, but that goes back to the essence of not seeing it: you pull in the opposite direction.
The faster you pursue answers, the more answers you have.
I’m not ahead of you in this adventure. Our lives are unfolding all day long.
I know I’m seeing you.
Rather than taking action, will you feel supportive by taking a small step towards grounding?
Maybe take a deep breath, put a hand in your heart, and even remind yourself, “I don’t have to figure it out now.”
Will it feel OK to admit this for the time being? Let all your parts know, “I see pain, I see urgency, and I don’t ignore you. I just want to move from a clear place, not fear.”
You don’t have to worry – just settle down before deciding on your next step.
How do you feel?
Find that starting point (you feel rooted rather than reacting) everything.
About Chris Wilson
Chris is a dad, coach, and the one who rebuilds his life from scratch. Through depression, unemployment and silence burnout, no one talks about it. Simplified Sunday, a community of a thousand people, which emerged from those dark days. Want to join? Start with free weekly stays. In less than three minutes. This is your chance to take a step back, take a deep breath and light up with your soul.
